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Psycho-emotional Needs (Christian and Non-Christian)

Outline of the five basic needs which govern and inform human behaviour: purpose, companionship, control, security, and self-worth.

Psycho-emotional Needs

  Behavioural Strategy   Psycho-emotional Gratification
(Genesis 2:8,15)
Desire to make an impact or contribution. Devotion of time and energy to work or some project. Achieving a goal or objective is stressed. Contribution, accomplishment, achievement
(Neh. 2:11-20)

a) Unhealthy – obsession with productivity and results (eg. workaholic)

b) Healthy – realistic meaningful and worthwhile goals.

(Genesis 2:18)
Desire for friendship, intimacy or romance. Desire for belonging, acceptance, and affection. Stress is on togetherness and social interplay. Intimate relationship, fellowship
(Cant. 3:1-5)

a) Unhealthy – immoral or promiscuous relations (eg. adulteress, homosexual)

b) Healthy – loving marriage, warm friendship

(Genesis 3:12,13)
Desire to be in charge or command of situations. Desire to have a handle on matters, and not to be overwhelmed or dominated. Desire for a sense of empowerment. Avoidance of unpredictability and uncertainty. Empowerment, independence
(Jn. 20:19-23)

a) Unhealthy – authoritarian and violent behaviour (eg. physical abuser)

b) Healthy – responsible, informed, decision-making

(Genesis 3:8-10)
Desire for safety and protection. Desire support and company. Stress is on inner peace. Familiarity and orderliness are important. Support, protection, company
(Jn. 14:1-6; 16:25-33)

a) Unhealthy – indulgent behaviour and questionable associates (eg. alcoholic, drug abuser)

b) Healthy – caring community or strong friendships

(Genesis 3:7)
Desire to feel worthy, valuable, or acceptable. Conforms to expectations and standards. Stress is on self-affirmation. Affirmation, approval, encouragement
(Mt. 25:14-30)

a) Unhealthy – exhibitive and self-centred behaviours (eg. braggart)

b) Healthy – encouraging community or positive family and friends